(i) 'Looking back, it is clear now that Thomas and I were at an impasse because neither of us could bear the thought that he was irreparably damaged. And it was only when we were both able to be sad, to despair because we couldn't fix what was broken, that his spitting stopped serving a purpose for us and we were able to move forward.'
(ii) 'We all have a cheering voice that says 'let us start now, right away' and an opposing, negative voice that responds, 'I would prefer not to.' When we are in the grip of negativity, we lose our appetite for human connections... Unconsciously, we drag others into pleading our case to us.'
Stephen Grosz
